I was pretty hopeless at the whole dating game till I read The Game and started to try it out; it was a brilliant read. But the bare truth of it is that it doesn't actually work all that well. Oh yeh sure you can be a PUA and grab some fairly shallow girls - but it's a bit boring to be honest (and your success rate is fairly low - you "win" by asking lots of women). The only thing The Game gives you is confidence; which is 90% of the trick.
Indeed the best advice in this article is twofold.
- Confidence (subtly suggested) is a big factor. She's talking to you - if your not confident she'll only stay out of sympathy
- Dont pay for everything/anything; the best advice you will ever learn. I had plenty of crap dates spending loads of money in the hope of getting laid and it invariably went nowhere (a kiss on the cheek usually, bah). Till one date the girl randomly said "I'm not going to sleep with you tonight, can we just have a nice time" - so with no real investment in the evening we had an awesome fun just spending time together.
Now when I go on a date the first thing I'll say is "so do you want to get the first round or the second?". It's subtle but works brilliantly; usually we share the rounds and have a great time (and maybe sleep together, but I find that a less important conclusion now)
Against all the odds Im a pretty good dater. So when my friends ask for advice or help I usually say:
- go on a date just to have a good time with a girl, not just to sleep with her
- share the costs
- dont be gentlemanly at the end of the night. She's a person too and if she's not interested in getting laid she'll just say no
- be confident. She's on a date with you already!!
When reading any of the PUA stuff, you have to realize that the common threads are simply communicating effectively, having confidence, breaking out of your shell, and simply displaying YOUR personality in a fashion that makes you attractive.
I think the issue with a lot of people blindly following the advice and material is that they understand the science but don't understand the delivery. The things you learn here should help you out in ALL facets of life that involve social interaction. Mold them to fit your needs and you'll be set. Sounds like its worked for you!
Absolutely. Problem is everyone handing out PUA avoids telling you that because it is easier to market a "Method"(tm). Took me a few months and I know people who still dont "get it" years later.
The parent is great advice for dates and for life (is there a distinction, really?)
> go on a date just to have a good time with a girl, not just to sleep with her
- Be present with no expectations except creating a good time for yourself - others will be attracted to this
>share the costs
- Sharing is caring - don't pay for something (in this case, her drinks & dinner) unless you want to
> dont be gentlemanly at the end of the night. She's a person too and if she's not interested in getting laid she'll just say no
- Assume responsibility for what you want, and assume she'll take responsibility for what she wants
> be confident. She's on a date with you already!!
- Act like you've been there before... get out of your head and into the present moment.
I was pretty hopeless at the whole dating game till I read The Game and started to try it out; it was a brilliant read. But the bare truth of it is that it doesn't actually work all that well. Oh yeh sure you can be a PUA and grab some fairly shallow girls - but it's a bit boring to be honest (and your success rate is fairly low - you "win" by asking lots of women). The only thing The Game gives you is confidence; which is 90% of the trick.
Indeed the best advice in this article is twofold.
- Confidence (subtly suggested) is a big factor. She's talking to you - if your not confident she'll only stay out of sympathy
- Dont pay for everything/anything; the best advice you will ever learn. I had plenty of crap dates spending loads of money in the hope of getting laid and it invariably went nowhere (a kiss on the cheek usually, bah). Till one date the girl randomly said "I'm not going to sleep with you tonight, can we just have a nice time" - so with no real investment in the evening we had an awesome fun just spending time together.
Now when I go on a date the first thing I'll say is "so do you want to get the first round or the second?". It's subtle but works brilliantly; usually we share the rounds and have a great time (and maybe sleep together, but I find that a less important conclusion now)
Against all the odds Im a pretty good dater. So when my friends ask for advice or help I usually say:
- go on a date just to have a good time with a girl, not just to sleep with her
- share the costs
- dont be gentlemanly at the end of the night. She's a person too and if she's not interested in getting laid she'll just say no
- be confident. She's on a date with you already!!
:)